Golden Globes 2014

Did you watch the Golden Globes this past Sunday? I was feeling especially psyched since I’d seen many of the films nominated. And I was of course curious to see all the ladies’ fashions. So I DVR-ed The Red Carpet. (Apparently there were incredibly important football games on during the Globes pre-show. And marriage means compromise J)

But DVR-ing the red carpet was pointless. Once football ended and the actual awards show started, there was no way I was going to watch the entire Red Carpet afterwards. So instead I watched the Globes while perusing red carpet images on Pinterest. Isn't technology the best?

As for the styles, I thought Olivia Wilde looked amazing. I was underwhelmed with most of the other actors’ outfits. I’m a big believer in finding a dress that makes you look your best, not wearing a frock just because it’s allegedly fashion-forward. Or so hideous it’s cool.

As it turned out, the more interesting elements of the 2014 Globes were:

- That one funny joke about George Clooney. (Choosing death over dating someone his own age. Quite witty.)

- Jacqueline Bisset (I have no words.)

- Matt Damon (How smooth is he?!)

- Jared Leto’s Bun (Just the bun, not Leto.)

- Andy Samberg (When he thanked “my team” I just lost it.)

- And last but not least, Leo.

Leonardo DiCaprio is known for never winning awards. I’m happy for him that he brought home a Globe. His acting in The Wolf of Wall Street was convincing. And The Wolf of Wall Street was well done and certainly entertaining. What I don’t understand is why it was made it the first place. If I had done a little research and known more about the (true) story, I wouldn’t have purchased a ticket to see The Wolf in the first place. The Wolf, based on Jordan Belfort’s autobiographical book, was basically an “f you” to the Everyman. Not my cup of tea. 

A

P.S. Check out this article, written by the daughter of a man who had been in cahoots with Belfort. 

Guest Post: Elizabeth J. Neuse

Speaking of setting intentions, I’d like to share my mentor Elizabeth Neuse's post on her own New Year’s Resolutions.

Elizabeth is not only an amazing Yoga Teacher, she’s also kind, candid, cool, laidback and incredibly funny. I aspire to be like her as a yoga teacher and as a person. 

But back to The New Year. Check out Elizabeth’s 2014 intentions. You’re in for a treat:

Resolutions and Samskaras

This year I made one New Year’s resolution- to omit sugar and road rage from my diet. No one likes to picture her yoga teacher raging at other drivers, but it happens. I decided to begin on Jan 5th right after returning from vacation. As I walked into the yoga studio yesterday a sweet student offered me a truffle. Walking out another dear student gave me a box of truffles. Before I knew it I was driving through SoHo steering with my knee, holding a praline crunch cup between two fingers and using another finger to indicate how I felt about the driver who just tried to cut me off. A few moments later I snapped out of my sugar rage, cursing myself for breaking my resolution after only 15 hours (if you count the hours I was asleep). A few moments after that I remembered something about self-love and decided to get curious rather than hostile towards myself.

In Buddhist practice we learn that suffering comes in the form of two arrows. The first arrow is the inevitable life circumstance- someone cutting you off in traffic or forgetting that you have given up sugar long enough to scarf down a few chocolates. The second arrow comes in the form of judgment of the first arrow. The second arrow is the expletive that flies out of your mouth, like a rabid sparrow, fueled by the nasty thoughts you think about yourself when you “mess up”. The first arrow can be a tool for learning. The second is a weapon.

When I take a step back and look at the first arrow I can see that while my intention was to love everyone and save myself from early tooth decay, I hadn’t done much to address the samskaras (habitual patterns) that caused me to react in the moment. Yogis have known for thousands of years what scientists are discovering today. It is incredibly difficult to change our habitual patterns, because they are wired into our brains. BUT it is possible. Through tapas (dedication), svadyaya (self study) and Ishvara Pranidhana (letting go), over a long period of time we can change our habits.

With these teachings in mind I got curious. I noticed that although I had flipped the bird at the other driver, I didn’t actually feel upset. My nervous system had not responded the way it used to, with clenched teeth and a racing heart. I looked in the rearview mirror at the man behind me whom I had not let in. I repeated a phrase Pema Chodron offers, “Just like me.” Most of the time when someone does something we abhor, if we get really honest we can recall a time when we did the same thing or at least something with the same energy behind it.

“Just like me” opened me up a little.

At the very next light someone else tried to cut me off. Instead of honking and speeding up, I slowed down and waved him in. To my surprise it actually felt good to help him even if he was breaking the rules. Sandwiched between my “just like me’s” I acknowledged that open feels better than shut. Curious feels better than judgmental. Gentle feels better than angry.  

Now what about the truffles?

They were given to me as a gift. I told myself gratitude meant eating them. However, as a vegetarian for the past 18 years, if someone gave me bacon truffles as a gift I would not eat them.

What would I do? Share them with a bacon-loving friend. 

Last night I enjoyed one more truffle and shared the rest with my bacon-loving husband. I decided that small amounts of high quality chocolate eaten mindfully works better for me than deprivation. I also changed my resolution to this:

 In 2014 may I deepen my commitment to curiosity and kindness, to recognizing others as “just like me” and to letting go of my secondary archery practice gently, one arrow at a time.

What are your New Year’s Resolutions?

How will you support yourself in the process of making these changes?

May your 2014 be filled with rich insights, limitless joy and bacon truffles;)

Namaste,

EJ

[Reprinted with permission by Elizabeth J. Neuse. Elizabeth is a Senior Teacher at YogaWorks and you can find more info on her and her teachings here.]

ID’d

As discussed here, I’m getting all new ID’s bearing my new name. I’m embracing my name change. I’m excited to be a Singer. The downside? Having to get all new ID photos.

I think I’m low-maintenance; my husband begs to differ. Justin agrees with Harry, of When Harry Met Sally fame: I’m the worst type of high maintenance, because I think I’m low maintenance. I don’t deliberate over outfits or spend very much time on makeup. But I do take my time ordering a sandwich. I’m particular when it comes to eating out.

When do I really primp? For big events, and for ID pics. I know to some it may seem ridiculous, but you have your ID’s for years to come! So when Refinery29 featured this post on looking fine for the DMV, I took note.

And I was pleasantly surprised when the cat lady (she literally had a cat with her in the bodega) taking my new passport picture provided the below commentary, in broken English:

“You vain.”

“But pretty.”

“I like you style.”

“You skinny.”

“Where you going?”

“I don’t like Mexico.”

“Ugh, the food.”

AS

P.S. Speaking of vain and skinny, StyleCaster instructs on how to look skinny in pictures, here. (In case you didn’t get the memo about The Arm Trick.)

P.P.S. My first passport pic, from before I was vain J

2014

I don’t make New Year’s Resolutions any more. Those clichéd self-promises don’t stick. They’re silly. Instead, I’m being a yogi regarding The New Year. I’m taking some time to reflect on 2013 and I’m setting some intentions for going forward. But my most important intention of all: to be present through it all.

2013 was a big year.

I married my best friend.

I traveled to Napa (twice!) and Jamaica.

We went on an amazing honeymoon. (Blog posts to come.)

I went on my first safari and visited South Africa and Mauritius for the first time. (See above.)

I earned a promotion at work.

A MUSE BOUCHE got lots of love on social media here and here. (Thank you fans.)

I embraced Instagram (@amyesinger).

I watched Breaking Bad, in an embarrassingly short period of time.

I changed my name.

I taught myself how to make homemade chicken salad and used those skills to make many packed lunches for my hubby and me.

I learned how to make homemade sushi; thanks to our amazing NYE hosts Megan & Ryan.

My husband and I started cooking dinner, often.

[Wedding Photo by Carlie Statsky, Napa, CA]

[Cape Town, South Africa]

[Sabi Sands in Kruger National Park, South Africa]

2014 is going to be a big year.

I want to try a cooking class.

I’m going to continue cooking and brown bagging my lunch.

I plan to find an apartment spacious enough for a kitchen table. (Only in NYC, friends.)

I want to host dinner parties, or at least more parties, for my friends.

I plan to post a new blog at least once/week.

I’m going to work on my book, seriously.

I will travel more with my hubby.

I intend to unplug more, always during meals.

I want to clean out the clutter in my personal space, in my email and in life.

I will continue to enjoy the little things, like snuggling up under some Faux Fur with my husband on a frigid winter day.

A